LT Attention

Yesterday SP mentioned the topic of a guy avoiding a girl. After doing some research this is wht i got:

1) know u like him, but no feeling, runs away
2) know u like him, but no feeling yet dun wan to lose a friend, draws line
3) know u like him, but no feeling and dun wan hurt ur feelings, stammer and being indecisive and shows signs of avoiding
4) know u like him, and got feeling, confess soon
5) dun know u like him, but he like u, shows interest in u and attempts to catch ur attention
6) know u like him, got feeling, yet unsure of how to confess
7) know u like him, but no feeling, yet feel like toying with ur feelings

If he knows and you're getting scary, like doing uncool childish stuff to get his attention it will be a total turn-off. Then probably he'll avoid you. Because he'll get scared and disgusted by your acts of annoyance. Girls are meant to be mature, cool and play a little hard to get. A bit like what you're doing. That's what makes the boy interested in you. Unlike a girl who is so accepting and easy for the boy to get. But don't play TOO hard to get, because if he likes you means he likes you.

Girls will never understand us guys

Well there are a variety of reason a man shows intrest then stops. Because I don't know the details of the situation, I'll just answer generally. A few reasons that I can give you are as follows:

1. He may have heard rumors (or truths) about you and your sexual history, which may have made him hestiant to persue a relationship with you.

2. He may have just ended another relationship and used you as the 'in between' or 'rebound' girl. It's not fair, necessarily, but many men feel that it will hurt them less if they have someone interested in them to 'fall back on' when they are recovering from a relationship.

3. Fear of rejection. Men face this obstacle as often as women do, and sometimes moreso because of the social pressures put upon them to be the active 'seekers' in the relationship. A lot of women don't realize how often men get rejected in social settings after they've finally mustered up the courage to ask a girl out. And it can still be nerve-wracking after you've been dating. Men have body issues just like women, and may be self-conscious about certain parts of their anatomy, if there is a sexual theme and they shy away, this may be the reason.

4. You may be sending mixed signals. Are you showing interest or are you being brash? Are you talking with him casually or are you flirting? Make sure that you are consistent with the messages you send, both verbally and physicall. I'm not suggesting you jump in the sack with him, but let him know that you're interested (if you are). Don't wait for him to call and ask you out if you'd like to spend time with him. Make sure that if you want to spend time, hang out, go on a date, that you let him know. Guys like a girl with initiative.

Also because guys don't have the patience to play the stupid games that girls want to play. The whole "mixed signals" and the "Now I like you, oh but now I don't" that a lot of girls frequently play loses the interest of men very fast. Not that men are purely seeking a quick fix, or don't like a challenge, but if a girl decides to play games, the guy will choose to move on to someone else who will make his time more valuable and less frustrating.

There's always new stuff to discover when i do research. Always love the "uh-ha" and "ohhh" moments. =)